Dear Feminist, What Should Men Do With Chivalry?

FEMINISM HAS GREATLY EMPOWERED WOMEN AND LEFT MEN IN A STATE OF CONFUSION.

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There was a time I struggled with the concept of feminism and as a result, I concluded it was a war against masculinity. Almost very quickly, the line men had come to believe “it’s a man’s world” steadily began to fade. We’ve seen women rise up to take up certain responsibilities or activities that have afore time been reserved for men –thought to be a manly obligation. Women are now bread winners in many homes, they want to get into politics, they want to come into the bar to drink beer and talk sports. This I greatly commend because I have a thing for ladies who know a thing or two about sports but what do men do with chivalry?

Men these days have had to tone down chivalry because ladies see it as an attack on their personality. When a guy tries to open a door for woman he gets hit with the “don’t hold the door for me, I can open my own doors” because they believe that such chivalry suggests that they are the weaker sex. Women have become very attentive to words that are seemingly derogatory. In 2014 there was a whole campaign on this #LikeAGirl; ladies came out to say that the words “act like a girl” are derogatory as it implies some form of weakness.

The trend now is; men are joining the support for feminism but from the stand point of the fact that ladies should be allowed to compete evenly in every facet of the society and in homes as well. This doesn’t replace the roles the institution of marriage imposes on both parties; however it suggests adequate levels of participation from both parties.

Although the voices of feminists in 2018 haven’t been as loud as previous years, I TINK that like a patient lion, they lie in wait for the right time to pounce on some guy, policy, or movement that will imply anything feminism is blatantly against.

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Feminism is prominent in Africa than it is in many other parts of the world as the African culture is historic for usurping authority over women. As such, in the nearest future, the obligation for both sexes will be separated by a blur line. We’ve begun to see women take up high responsibilities and excel, we’ve seen ladies in heavy lifting and body building, we’ve seen them in sports and politics and they do so well.

Even though women are making so much progress riding on the backs of feminism should men no longer be chivalrous? What should they do with “gentle manly” gestures?

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